Let’s End Domestic Violence Now
Published on August 3rd, 2011.
In a marital relationship, both the husband and the wife are expected to show unconditional love and respect to each other. However, this love and affection is ruined due to some domestic violence. Why does it happen? How do we know that we are already a victim of abuse? And what’s the effect when it is tolerated? These are the common issues that many failed to notice or denied.
Domestic violence emerged when one person of an intimate couple tries to control the other by employing abusive behavior. In most cases, women are the helpless victim. Abuse may connote variety of meaning. It can be physical, verbal and emotional abuse or sometimes in the form of sexual misuse. People are not aware of this thing because they think that an abused person always gets physical hurting.
Destructive criticism is one way of showing domestic abuse. When your spouse tries to humiliate you when many people is around, always sees your errors even the most little ones, insult you for no reason at all then your spouse is trying to control you. Mostly, people who are already suffering from this kind of treatment aren’t aware that they are being treated differently. Or maybe they are aware but it is often disregarded or denied due to their concern to family ties and welfare of their children.
A person doesn’t develop himself to be abusive at certain times of his life if he did not encounter terrible experience in the past. For instance, in his childhood days, he experienced to be bullied by his classmates. This incident would create unnecessary hated to people who made him feel down. Unknowingly, he takes revenge in a form of domestic violence. He may feel superior when he saw somebody feeble.
Women in the abusive relationship are sometimes unconscious of the behavior of their spouse. We’ll there are signs from where you can draw your conclusion that your partner is indeed an abusive person. Showing disrespect to their mother and sisters prove only that he grows up believing that women are the weaker sex and that men are superior of them all. When your spouse is angry and he kicks and throws objects, this is a sign of showing authority. Be careful because the next time he hits object, it might be hurled on you.
These people rarely change their attitude. The best thing to do is to accept the reality and end your relationship. If not, there are greater effects of your unhappy relationship. One extreme effect on you is physical and mental anguish. Physical injury can be healed in due time but not the mental destruction that domestic violence may create. You will feel inferior and worthless all the time losing your self-confidence. For your children, definitely it’s not healthy for them to live in fear and stay in a place full of danger.
Really bites that domestic violence evolves through the years. It is like a virus that has become common and contagious. The problem is that we tend to hide all the pains that we have inside. Let’s not close our eyes and cover our ears from this violence. This should be reported to the authority and let’s get rid of it. It should be stopped now!
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